Our words count! We all have heard this.

So, many say, "Choose your words carefully".

But why do our words matter so much? And why is it so hard to make progress in this area?

The author may well have some uncommon experiences to bring to the table in this area: he is the product of immigrants, and largely was raised without hearing words, his first four years, because his grandmother, who largely raised him during his first four years, knew no English, and so they spoke only an "intuitive" non-verbal language. And his biological mother had come to Ellis Island as an immigrant, too, as a war refugee, knowing no English, ten years before his birth.

For the past five years, he has applied his knowledge of Electrical Engineering and Mathematics to the study of "People"-words.

Ten years ago, he also spent one hundred Saturday mornings at a meditation center; and a year ago, visited a Buddhist monastery four times, talking with two Buddhist Tibetan monks, and attending lectures there, too.

And he has also seen the Western psychological views on words, having spent one hundred sessions in psychoanalysis with two physicians, in his twenties.

This book mentions his views on possible shortcomings in how various viewpoints address words and their side-effects.

His father has a Ph.D. in English literature.

This book has many very useful links to great YouTube shows on the topic of words and relationships.