Part memoir, mostly self-help, How Do I Sexy? A Guide for Trans Queers strives to provide affirming and helpful direction to those struggling with finding their sexual selves in a landscape rife with misogynistic, transphobic, and homophobic ideals and expectations. Mx. Nillin Lore brings over a decade of their own personal and professional experience as an author, editor, speaker, educator, advocate, support worker, and a multiple award winning sex blogger, to the big questions on the minds of many gender diverse individuals: what even is ""sexy,"" and how the hell do you do it?