Love, Crash, Rebuild

The authors share lessons they learned about conflict, whether a small fight, a real battle, or even a period of war, to help couples reset into a different state of love by using a dynamic five-step model to rebuild and maintain a foundation of vulnerability, empathy, and intimacy.

Conflict and turmoil--the intimacy of everyday life--is the foundation great relationships are built on. Based on decades of helping couples address conflict and achieve long-lasting love, the authors created a simple five-step process for reconciling differences, taking couples in crisis from rupture to repair.

Their tool--the PACER model (Pause, Accountability, Collaboration, Experiment, and Review)--takes into account cultural differences, past hurts, and current crises. It is an opportunity for not just healing but for growth. Packed with interactive exercises that make real change possible, Love, Crash, Rebuild offers readers in any type of romantic partnership--straight, gay, nonbinary, interracial, etc.--a single toolbox that can help bring a new understanding of what a successful relationship should look like.

This groundbreaking new book includes dozens of client anecdotes and stories of the authors' relationship as a mixed-race couple, who are also couples' therapists, that highlight how a simple process can address and resolve all ruptures, large or small. Couples will learn how to take a deeper look at what is lying underneath their issues and find a healthier outlook on their relationship.