How many times does it take before you realize that you're not the solution to a problem when it comes to marriage? You're not even the right person to give advice when asked. This is how the world treats someone who has never been married, yet these are the first people who are asked when there is a problem in a marriage. Let's analyze this concept for a moment. One, who told you to get married in the first place, was it God or was it your decision? Two, why did you get married? Was it for love or money, or even some other reason? Three, the one who says, "I DO" may just be saying that because they "Don't" want to be alone. Find out where your inside told your outside that marriage was the right thing for you. The outcome may help you determine and help you realize who was the real person who kept you in a place where you did not belong and who wanted to have someone, who they could just boss around. You may find that when released from a marriage that was not yours to begin with or was not in its proper time will always result in turmoil and even misery in some cases. In others, there could be a reunion as a friend or even a person who wants to be a husband without the paperwork. Either way, somebody must change and there is never a clear picture of who that is when it comes to a marriage. What if it's both of you and you don't even know it until you are alone and have had time to assess what really happened? The real truth about your marriage comes from God and he is a marriage counselor from the inside and of course, he does solo sessions when you make your appointment. In time, all marriages are more than meets the eye. They are happy, sad, moody, loving, and even impossible but never blame each other for what you think the other person should or should not be doing as you're not the boss of anything but yourself. You're not even the boss of that either without God so take a step back and get together with him to get the answers to the who, what, and whys of your life. Your marriage is not the whole picture, it's just a minor adjustment to the bigger plan which you were supposed to understand first, marriage second, and Love until death do you part third. The single humans are not in the wrong for being single, they are in it to win it, with or without the other person to make them feel whole. Two do become one but not without God as the merger and until you merge with God first, you're going in circles.