Everybody has a sense of fashion and how they feel most comfortable and confident. But for some, that means stepping outside of the kinds of clothes people label as being for men or for women. And for some it goes beyond just what is worn; sometimes there’s a distinct and pronounced desire to both appear and feel as much like the opposite gender of one’s birth as possible.

Vera Wylde, a male cross dresser since puberty, takes readers on a guided tour through her journey of discovery and evolution. The questions and pivotal moments of her life are interwoven with practical advice on everything from makeup, to walking in heels, to tucking away that pesky male genitalia.

The perfect book for anybody questioning or seeking to better understand themselves, find guidance from somebody who’s already been there, better understand a loved one, or just the idly curious.