Anger - A blessing or a curse? Many of us struggle to maintain relationships, even though we are constantly striving to be accepted by the very people we love and respect. Our efforts often fail us and the very people we want to please. We attempt to change, we will promise to do better, and then we fail again. With each failure our anger increases, then we work to become more loving. When we fail yet again we become angry and may even encounter depression. This is the Anger/Love Cycle we find ourselves in while we strive to manage our anger. Anger management does not work because we are focusing on the symptom, our anger, and not addressing the cause.