This book is about you and how you can be masterful in your most important relationship.

It's about having greatly increased self-awareness and self-management, leading to emotionally intelligent choices. It's becoming far better as a relationship partner than you ever thought possible.

It's about being mindful of what's happening between you and your partner in this moment, able to create a "mindful pause" between something that triggers an emotional reaction and your usual habitual response. It's conscious and intentional relating instead of "knee-jerk" automatic reacting.

This is a book about a systematic, holistic, and action-oriented process of choosing and creating mindful relating. It's a guidebook outlining a process of regularly assessing your relational mastery across ten Mindful Choices dimensions, focusing your attention, sustaining a high level of motivation, and creating lasting positive changes through ongoing intention, awareness, focus, and practice. It's not just another self-help book, but rather a complete "how-to" manual for relational excellence.

This book is not about finding the right partner or fixing your partner. It's about being the right partner, bringing your very best self to the relationship.