The Myth of Forgiving Others: Just Accept! It’s all about us, not them!

‘Just let it go and forgive others.’ Heard it often? When we forgive, we not only forget and let go of our hatred and disappointment, we are also supposed to start back on a clean slate and love them unconditionally. Do we do that really? Deep down in our psyche, forgiving others in the above sense stays with us only as a myth, not a reality. And myths always trap us and entangle us in a maze of misinformation and especially misunderstandings so that it becomes virtually impossible for us to get out and see the road ahead, until we take a pause, look around very carefully, marking the pointers through which we have already gone round and round! Once we do that, there is a possibility that wisdom finally dawns on us.

What, then, is the real meaning of forgiving others?

If we can’t forgive, should we continue to get stuck forever in the same negative energies of hurt, hatred and pain? The solution for pain is not more pain, but understanding, compassion and healing!

But how do we get there?