Fearless. Tough. Uncompromising. This was the persona of former elite footballer and senior AFL coach, Danielle Laidley.

Fearful. Vulnerable. Uncertain. This is how Laidley felt, for most of her life.

For the best part of five decades, within a hyper-masculine sporting environment, Danielle Laidley harboured a dark secret. As a boy growing up in the backblocks of Perth, as a teenager and young man playing AFL, as a married father of three, she knew she was female, regardless of the gender she was assigned at birth.

For years Laidley lived a compartmentalised life, managing her secret first with a relentless quest for sporting success and workaholism, and eventually with substances that dulled the pain. She covertly experimented with her transgender life but eventually rumours began to circulate. Then there was nowhere to hide.

This is an unflinching account of what it’s like to know you don’t fit the body you were born into, and the desperate measures taken to mask the fear of being outed, of losing those you love. It’s about the courage it takes to step into the world as Danielle May.