The Life We’re Looking For: Reclaiming Relationship in a Technological World

‘A fascinating and eye-opening book’ - Tom Holland, author of Dominion: The Making of the Western Mind

Our greatest need is to be recognised - to be seen, loved, and embedded in rich relationships with the people around us. But for the last century, we’ve displaced that need with the ease of technology. We’ve dreamed of power that doesn’t require relationship (what the premodern world called magic) and abundance that doesn’t require dependence (what Jesus called Mammon). Yet even before a pandemic disrupted that quest, we felt threatened and strangely out of place: lonely, anxious, bored amid endless options, oddly disconnected amid infinite connections.

In The Life We’re Looking For, bestselling author and cultural critic Andy Crouch reveals how we traded lives of rich relationship for a world of impersonal power - and how each of us can fight back. From the generosity of early Christians to the efforts of entrepreneurs working to create more humane technology, Crouch shows how we can restore true community and put people first in a world dominated by money, power and devices.

There is a way out of our impersonal world, into a world where knowing and being known is the heartbeat of our days, our households, and our economies. Where our human vulnerabilities are seen not as something to be escaped but the actual key to our becoming who were made to be together. Where technology serves us rather than masters us - and helps us become more human, not less.