Tell padre things are about to change. Let him laugh at you, look at him straight in his eyes, and say, You know what, my mother always said, ‘Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.’ So guess what, I’m not. So I guess what I’m trying to say is that things are different. Remember you are dating and you are the Prize. Be careful not to look like a slut. Keep your legs closed and mouth shut. Start loving yourself again! Come on; whatever he sees in you must be wonderful. Be wonderful, but this time act like a lady–the lady your grandmother told you to be. There is only one thing that controls an African-American man and that is an African-American woman. Be a chess opening in which a player risks one or more minor pieces to gain an advantage in position. Know your calculated moves.