Longing to Love: A Memoir of Desire, Relationships, and Spiritual Transformation

A theologian, husband, and father reflects on his unexpected journey toward unconditional love.

Like so many men, Tim Muldoon assumed that life followed a script. More specifically, he assumed that love would follow a script–one determined by his own choices. When the script changed, as it inevitably does, Muldoon was forced to begin asking some critical questions: How could he bring his disparate desires into harmony with one another? How could he arrive at the spot where his deepest desires seemed to be leading him? Should he–or could he–take a real risk and venture into unknown territory with regard to selfless love?
In meditative, heartfelt prose, best-selling author Tim Muldoon shows how true love grows through unexpected twists and turns in a relationship, and how by following the deepest desires of his heart, he found the freedom to become his best and most passionate self. From sex to self-giving love, from the desire to be loved to the desire to serve God in the person of his spouse, from resisting adoption to loving his two adopted daughters unconditionally, Muldoon shares with us his personal love story, whose altered script he eventually came to embrace. Through Muldoon’s journey, each of us is invited to consider that our deepest desires–both sexual and spiritual–are rooted in a fundamental longing to love and be loved, and that falling in love with God is what ultimately gives shape to all our needs.