Forgiving, Forgetting, and Moving On: Living a Less-Conflicted Life

How do we come to relative peace when we have behaved badly, or how do we come to grips with the misbehaviors of those around us? Forgiving oneself or others may not always be fitting, and forgetting may represent more denial than accommodation. Moving beyond conflict to beneficial solutions is often hard to achieve and sometimes seems beyond hope. In Forgiving, Forgetting, and Moving On, Robert Hooberman explains to clinicians and those interested in their own internal psychological workings how and why we become overwhelmed by conflict, and he explores methods to work through these conflicts. Hooberman believes that conflict can best be understood through a thorough process of psychological formulation culminating in a picture of the individual’s character structure. Understanding character opens up the patient’s internal world, leading toward greater appreciation of the causative factors. Using numerous case examples, Hooberman explains therapeutic techniques that assist patients in finding new solutions for conflicts that were previously felt to have been intractable.