Real. Raw. Gritty. Thoughts Of A Lover Redefined chops up and serves love, relationships, and dating in a way that only B.J. Carmichael can. He brings real street talk, down souf slang and vernacular to the crossroads of Southern Hospitality and pimpin’ pimpin’. B.J. cracks open his soul showing how young black men approach relationships with women, untraditionally. He writes frankly about his experiences with women, successes and failures, that have left his heart more cold than not, but seeking companionship.