Dear Mama: If Only You Loved You

At some point during the healing process you learn forgiveness. Sometimes it’s easier to forgive the person who cheated on us than the person who birthed us. In this intimate letter to her mom, Thomeisha holds nothing back when she expresses how her mother’s absence and presence has affected her over the years. In Dear Mama: If Only You Loved You, Thomeisha explains to her mother how she has managed to overcome tragedy after tragedy growing up without her. She explains how her mother selling her in exchange for drugs has led to a life full of transactional love. According to Thomeisha, transactional love is love only given under the condition that something is being provided. In her case, the most precious part of her body.

In this heartfelt letter, we ride the waves of emotions as we feel the pain that Thomeisha expresses regarding abuse, abortion, miscarriage, and hardship. We regain hope knowing that she is capable of possessing so much grace, strength and wisdom after everything that she has endured. Thomeisha teaches us that there is calm after the storm.

Just like Thomeisha, you are not defined nor restricted by your past. Learn grace, learn self-love, practice forgiveness, and focus on who you can become.