Finally, expert ADHD advice that doesn’t treat kids like a problem to be solved-and instead speaks to what they need to truly thrive in school and life.

If you are the parent of a child or teen with ADHD, you’re already aware that school is challenging for your son, and that the two of you argue too much. You may know that your daughter is forgetful and needs multiple reminders to remember her soccer practice and her chores. But do you really understand what it’s like for them? What difference would that make in your daily parenting struggles to help them grow into responsible, competent and happy adults? This book gives parents new insights into the minds and feelings of their children with ADHD-and offers them a new, family-tested roadmap for reducing family stress and improving loving connections.

For more than 25 years, Sharon Saline has worked with children, teens, and their families coping with ADHD-in her psychotherapy practice, as a consultant to schools, keynote speaker, and a workshop facilitator. Time and again, she has observed that the ways these parents and children miss each others’ signals increases everyone’s anger, frustration, hurt and disconnection.

Instead of focusing on what their children or teens are doing wrong and how to fix them, parents will learn to interpret what their kids are communicating verbally and behaviorally and how to collaborate with them to enhance cooperation, closeness and productivity.

Many books about ADHD tell parents what to do and how to discipline. This one explains the importance and effectiveness of being an empathically aware communicator, and how working together creates lasting results.