Mike is a survivor of childhood abuse. He endured most of his childhood living with emotional, physical and sexual, something that will be with him forever. Like most survivors of abuse he had suppressed the memories of his abuse for many years. It was only as he approached the age of thirty-seven that he began to recall the details of his childhood in the form of flashbacks. He quickly developed severe anxiety and depression and post traumatic stress disorder. After being signposted eleven times by various sexual abuse charities and therapists( each claiming that because he was ‘not a woman or lived as a woman’, they could not help him) he decided to go onto a path of self healing whilst he endured an eighteen month waiting list for a therapist. In that time he began to study the psychology of what happens to abused and traumatized children in order to understand what was happening to him. He then moved onto trialing every method of healing that he could find from a variety of fields including psychology, holistic therapies and even life coaching models.

In this book we look at how adult victims of childhood abuse can regain connection and control over their emotional state caused through the shame caused by sexual, physical and emotional abuse. Through the discussion, examples from the authors life and exercises of contacting the ‘Inner Child’ they can learn how to revisit and reconnect with the emotional growth that was hindered in childhood in order to regain emotional control in their adult life
The book also has work book aspects where the reader will learn about and grow their emotional intelligence through an in depth understanding and learning of the their self awareness, the awareness of others, giving them the tools to both navigate toxic relationships, build healthy relationships and set boundaries.