This book is for anyone who simply doesn’t believe relationships have to be hard. Regardless of what you’ve been taught or what you’ve been through, it’s never too late to learn new ways of doing relationships. It’s never too late to create the one you always wanted, even if you’ve been together for years.

Clinical social worker and relationship counselor Amy L. Miller turns conventional wisdom on its head by leading readers through a journey of discovering what she calls relative ease in relationships. Her belief is that through getting to deeply know and love yourself, you will naturally find that relationships with other people become, if not easy, then at least easyish. It will become easier to connect, to be vulnerable, to create intimacy, and to know when the relationship isn’t right for you. She measures the health of a relationship by whether its members would self-report being happy, rather than by what society insists relationships ought to look like. Perhaps most radically, she views marriage as just one path to a happy and healthy and easyish longterm relationship.

Amy’s writing is conversational, accessible, and inclusive. Be prepared to be challenged and surprised. This book is for any and all readers, whether single or partnered, of any gender and any walk of life, who are wondering if there’s a different and better way to do relationships. There is.