You’ve been reading everything in sight about what to expect as a new mom – Should I breastfeed or use formula? ; Do we vaccinate right away? ; Oh God, is eating the placenta a thing now?

But what you’ve been desperately looking for is a guide that tells you what to do to help your partner figure out fatherhood because he’s kinda driving you crazy and you need more help. Sure, there are a few books out there by dads, to dads. But you and I both know that dude you had a baby with is not the best at sharing his feelings and seeking help, let alone telling you he’s freaked out about fatherhood.

Enter The New Mom’s Guide to New Dads. Get enlightening, humorous-yet-useful insight into what guys are anxious about and what moms can do to maximize their partner’s fatherhood potential. Flat out, more dads need to step up (and when they do, they’ll realize how amazing it is to be an involved parent). Andrew Shaw, a father of three young children and an award-winning parenting columnist, is shining a light on what is often holding guys back from being the kind of dad you can shamelessly brag about to friends, as well as help you feel less stress.