Self-love is a life long process and requires intentional commitment. It isn't what everyone else says about you that causes you to have the most pain - it is what you choose to think, say and believe about yourself that has the most power. Until I learned to identify and rectify my own beliefs about me - I would walk around with a shattered mirror. I had to learn that I will not always be the smartest person in the room. That there would be days when my beauty would not be obvious... I learned that the environment I grew up in was not my choice or by my design - and I couldn't own the choices of others and allow them to determine my value. I began to recognize that I would not always fit in with the most popular group and be ok with that. Finally, I had to learn to forgive myself for the choices I have made and own my future by making better decisions later.