Literature suggests that over 60% of American stepfamilies divorce, psychologically or legally. This translates into millions of anguished, traumatized adults and kids, who form an invisible subculture on our continent. There seem to be five combined reasons for this tragic, unremarked epidemic: _ co-parents’ psychological wounds from low-nurturance childhoods, _ blocked grief, _ unawareness of key stepfamily realities and relationship skills, _ courtship neediness and idealism, and _ little qualified community and media help.